Why do some ppl place so much importance on "appearing" to be such and such, while in reality, they KNOW they aren't what they pretend to be? How do you feel good about yourself when you BS to others about what you are, what your capabilities are, and what you look like, when you know inside of you, that it's only a fake facade...
that's what I don't get. cuz for them, they actually feel GREAT cuz they somehow think convincing others turn them into what they are pretending to be.
1. plastic surgery
ie. getting your whole face restructured with bone shaving/implants (cuz their original face is ugly or unporportional). I for one would never feel good if i went and surgically altered my face to be flawless. cuz i know that' its not me, it's a FAKE face that i'm showing ppl. It's fine if you are doing re-constructive surgery, or anti-aging, but completely changing urself into someone else is just rediculous, and no matter how beautiful u end up looking, it's not impressive, cuz it's not u and it was just a face that u bought with money.
2. technical skillsets
ie. "oh yeah i know flash, i know javascript, i know html" (but they don't really, and need to steal other ppl's codes and src files). I would never BS about my capabilities. I don't spend a few hours fumbling around with someone's PHP or ASP scripts and then tell ppl "oh i'm doing PHP now!" cuz i'm not, and i still don't know it beyond beginner level. And if i went ahead and convinced some web dummy that i can do PHP just to impress them, I'd just end up feeling ashamed and laugh at myself for being so rediculous.
3. social status
ie. pretending to be rich and/or important when they aren't really, such as buying name brand clothes, driving expensive cars, going to expensive places when they can't even afford to get their own place to live in (live with parents or roomates or whatnot). also name dropping! saying you know so and so when in fact you don't really. Why pretend to know some famous person when they barely remember who you are??
4. personal traits
ie. pretending to be a nice person and to be everyone's friend, but in reality all they care about is backstabbing others and using them to their advantage. I would never pretend to be nice to someone if i hate them. same as if i do like someone, i would never backstab them for my own purpose neither. cuz that will just sit on my conscience forever. I need to be able to enjoy my life and feel good about myself, a tainted conscience will keep me from that.